It is common advice to learn from the past and prepare for the future. What if you could take a look into the lessons learned from someone else’s past? Better yet, advice from nearly 600 random people that replied to a tweet?
My good virtual friend, Declan, recently turned 18. We’ve been talking business in the DMs since he first purchased my course.
The other day he wrote a tweet, “I recently turned 18… what advice would you give to your 18-year-old self?”
Declan sent me the tweet and asked if I would start it off. I said yes, and retweeted it for more exposure. After a little bit of time, the tweet took off.
Everyone seemed desperate to share their regrets and insights about their past. A few big accounts decided to chime in and by the end of it all, Declan was left with 596 replies. There were many common themes that showed up, as well as some not so good “advice.”
From 54-year-old dads to multimillion-dollar business owners giving their thoughts, it is safe to say that this was too much information to handle at one time.
Declan was generous enough to give me the green light on writing this post. Together we will break down the common themes and takeaways from this random yet interesting Twitter experience.
- Should You Get A Girlfriend at 18?
- Career Choices, College, and Building A Business
- Dealing With Emotions as a Young Adult
- Actions To Take For a Better Life
Should You Get A Girlfriend at 18?
Ah yes, the classic question that every 18-year-old has to ask themselves: is a girlfriend necessary or a waste of time?
There are three ways this conversation could go:
- Focus on improving yourself, don’t pay any mind to women. As someone else put, “Disregard females, acquire currency.”
- Improve yourself AND gain experience with women while remaining emotionally neutral.
- Put all of your energy into a relationship just to watch it crash and burn because you are 18.
If you are a woman reading this post – swap ‘girlfriend’ for ‘boyfriend,’ the advice works both ways.
Disregard Females, Acquire Currency
While this is an extreme position… extremes tend to work extremely well in terms of results.
The reply that mentioned this advice was the most liked in the entire thread of replies. Therefore, many people would advise a teenager to focus on building a stable income before refining his relationship skills.
Knowing Declan, his finances are a priority. He has his eyes on the (monetary) prize and is more consistent than any 18-year-old I know. Big props.
As with every other piece of advice given on this tweet, the decision is ultimately Declan’s to make. Building your own source of income is a great priority to have, but testing the waters with women is not the worst decision somebody could make.
Improve Yourself & Gain Experience
This was by far the most agreed upon topic. Improving yourself comes first and everything will fall into place much easier after the fact.
Think about it… if you focus on improving your mindset, finances, and health before you enter a serious relationship, there will be less problems.
By focusing on improvement, not only do you improve your own quality of life. You improve the probability of getting into a relationship with a high quality person that has done the same.
Since this advice does not forbid getting into a relationship – it leaves room to experiment. Test the waters, learn from failure, and discover what qualities you want in your future partner.
Or… Crash & Burn
There was one reply that, after being translated, said something along the lines of, “Marry the first woman you meet, it is hard to find one when you are older.”
Personally, I think this advice is not worth the time to talk about.
If one has improved them self, they will have no problem finding “the one” later on in life.
If you do not have any plans on improving yourself… why are you reading this post? 🙂
Career Choices, College, and Building A Business
18-year-olds are plagued with making huge decisions that will heavily impact their life:
- What career path should I pursue?
- Should I go to college?
- How can I build my own source of income?
These decisions are heavily influenced by friends, family, and peers. The decision is Declan’s to make, but we can guide him with our insights and experiences.
What Career Path Should You Pursue?
The career path you should pursue is heavily dependent on your interests.
If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life.Mark Anthony
Thankfully, we live in a time where this is more attainable than ever. You have the choice to pursue what you want to pursue. There is work for everyone.
As an 18-year-old, you have the ability to make mistakes without being deeply effected by them. It is not necessary to commit to one career path for your entire life, especially if you end up hating the first one you choose.
How do you figure out what you love? What is your passion?
This requires effort. In order to have an understanding of what you want to do, you need to experience different aspects of life.
How would you know you want to be a carpenter if you have never tried it before? Exactly.
You are young. Try new things.
Should You Go To College?
Teens are pressured into going to college, shilling out tens of thousands of dollars, and ending up with a degree they will never use.
How can you avoid this? Again, try new things while you are young.
Research a field of study you would be interested in like crazy. What does the average work day look like? Are you happy with the average salary? Do people generally enjoy that line of work? Do you have an alternate path you want to pursue? Do you have the dedication, interest, and desire to stick to that alternate path?
These are all worthy questions that will help you decide whether college is right for you.
College isn’t for everyone. Pursuing your own path isn’t for everyone.
Doing what you enjoy is for everyone.
How Can You Build Your Own Source Of Income?
Let’s clear the air right now. Entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone. You can be genuinely happy working a 9 to 5 job with great benefits.
One thing that everyone can pull from entrepreneurship is being able to do what YOU want with YOUR time. This is the goal. With the way the world is shifting (remote work becoming more common), having more free time will become common.
There is more to this mass work from home shift, but that is a discussion for another post. Freelancing will become more popular than it already is.
There are many ways to build your own source of income. What should an 18-year-old focus on the most? Learning highly profitable skills.
Any successful online business is built on an individual’s (or a team’s) skill set. Here are some you can learn:
- Web design
- Paid ads (Google/Facebook)
- Search engine optimization
- Social media marketing/management
These skills will be highly sought after by businesses. They will pay you good money to help grow their business with these skills.
Many businesses hire individuals with these skills without a degree. Investing in self-education is a major key for future success online.
Dealing With Emotions As A Young Adult
You are 18. There is so much to do yet so little to do. Big decisions to be made that can easily be blown off because you have little responsibility.
Out of all 596 replies, there was ONE piece of advice that was very prevalent.
Do not care.
Do not care what other’s think of you. Do not care if you fail, learn from it and keep going. Do not care what your peers are doing, do what YOU want to do.
As a former 18-year-old I will be the first to admit that this is extremely hard to do. You receive constant pressure from family, teachers, and mediocre friends to do what they think is right.
This only creates tension in your mind.
This is the perfect opportunity to develop mental resilience. Research to find what interests you, commit to the path, and forget about everything else.
Pair this with practicing mindfulness and stoicism and you will be an unstoppable force.
Actions To Take For A Better Life
The power of Twitter is beyond words. 596 replies on a single tweet that asked for some advice.
Much of this advice does not need to be expanded on, one sentence is powerful enough to get the point across.
To finish off this post, here are some one-liners that should be considered:
- Long term thinking always wins
- Learn to think for yourself, avoid group think
- Save and invest for a better future
- Define and prioritize YOUR values
- Don’t be too serious, have some fun
- A little bit of degeneracy is OK
- If you are lost monetarily – get a sales job
- STEM fields are the only worthwhile degree
- Build online income streams ASAP
- Learn marketable skills
- Prioritize your health, wealth, and mindset
Last but not least… do not spread yourself too thin. Focus on building 1-2 things at a time to avoid overwhelm.
Follow the advice given in this post, think for yourself, commit and win the game of life.